If you have an issue – I don’t give you permission to make it mine.
If you have preconceived ideas – I don’t give you permission to make them mine.
If you don’t like who I am, what I do and how I do it, then the solution is simple.
I haven’t chained you to my life. I haven’t enslaved you to be part of my life. It is your choice to be there or not. I welcome your presence, your being, your input and your thoughts.
I don’t welcome your pessimism, your negativity or your victim mentality. If you have nothing better to do then push me down and suck the energy out of me, then I don’t have time for you.
Someone can only bring you down if you let them. If you don’t let their actions or words penetrate your personal space, then they hold no power over you.
This covers all aspects of your life. I am worth it. You are worth it.
I’m not saying that you need to scrap people in your life as soon as they have a bad day, but if they are always negative and every time you speak to them you leave the interaction feeling exhausted, then maybe it’s time that you check and see whether it’s a healthy person to have around.
There’s an old saying, I’m not quite sure how it goes, but it’s along the lines of ‘you need to surround yourself with those who you would like to be more like’. This means that if you want to be healthy, you need to hang around healthy people. Being the only healthy one in a group of couch potatoes is draining and is using up your positive energy which could be so better focussed elsewhere.
This goes the same for all aspects of your life. It is YOUR life. It is MY life. People will come and go in your lives and they will all have a purpose or reason for touching on your life. Some of the reasons will be positive, some negative and some will leave you wondering why.
Don’t let anyone take you down or tell you what you are or aren’t if it’s not nice. Don’t grant them permission to have a negative effect on your life. Don’t allow yourself to be a victim of others’ issues.
Now before you all start doing self-audits, this post is not aimed at anyone. This is how I feel and it’s taken me a long time to realise that I actually have to give someone permission to bring me down. If I don’t let their words or actions affect me then I am in control.
This topic may have been sparked from a certain television episode last night ;)
Be careful with whom you grant your permissions to…